Last nite went well. Jon attended a Priesthood Meeting with one of the guys in our ward. It was good for him to get out of the house. I was able to pick up the house and i layed down the law with the older girls. I decided i needed to do things like in the olden days when families had 12 kids! They each have a buddy sister, rachel has anna and sarah has becca. At 7pm after we clean up from dinner, they are to take their buddy sister upstairs, one set in my bathtub, the other set in their shower. They are in charge of themselves AND their buddy sister, bathing them, teeth brushed, diaper/undeware on, clothes on, dirty clothes put in laundry room, bedroom picked up. This takes about an hour so im able to run a broom thru the house and pick things back up again as well as start getting jon into bed and cathd. It worked GREAT last nite. I told them they'd get 2 marbles (kristi make sure you bring the marble jars next week!!) AND mom would take the older 2 girls on a DATE with mom at the end of the week. They were EXCITED about this!!
I did the all nite cath thing with jon - it worked great! I put it in around 10pm, and then i got to bed around 1130am and then i woke at 4am to rotate and drain the leg bag and give him meds. I had a hard time getting back to sleep because i always get so awake from doing all that but finally got back to sleep only to be woken up at 644am. The three older girls slept in my bed together. they came downstairs and the morning madness began. I then went upstiars to sleep longer in my bed and my bedroom door became the revolving door that are in business!!! crazy!! i came downstairs and it was their usual messes everywhere, breakfast etc. so i layed down the law with all of them again on the couch, i told them again in the mornings NOBODY wakes up anna till 8am and NOBODY wakes becca till 830am..otherwise they are miserable during the day..when they do get up, they have their buddy they are in charge of to get dressed for the day- i will have their clothes layed out ready for them, they are in charge of getting their buddy sister breakfast too..then TOGETHER they will need to clean the kitchen back up - and if you make a mess- you clean the mess...so hopefully tomorrow morning goes a little better..but they seem to enjoy doing the buddy sister thing! at nites after the finish bathing at 8pm, we will start our family reading time again fro 15 minutes before they go to bed so it quiets everyone down for the nite...
today i will call the visiting angels agency to get someone in here. The owner was suppose to be in today to call me back..but i havent received a phone call yet. We have one outpatient therapy today at 230 and i have a sitter coming here to stay with the girls. Our only other appt will be at 5pm on thursday again for outpatient therapy which scott will be here with the girls for that appt.
Im SOOO excited for the ALMOST new normal we have ahead of us..jons pain continues to stay manageable at a 5..i again did everything for him this morning..im anxious to get things going!! thanks for your prayers and positive attitudes!!
1 year ago
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What a great idea. The buddy sister. I hope that works out for you.
I am doing the marble jars. It works great.
Your MC friend,
Donna ( Monty)
your idea for the buddy sisters was perfect. the older girls will love it!!!! being in charge is a cool thing even at a young age!!! good luck this week!
I think that is a great idea with the older girls and younger girls just make sure they don't get burned out and grow up too fast. They deserve a childhood too. But I think considering all of the circumstances it is probably a good idea for your family now. When will you find out about the new rehab place? Hopefully they will take him because he sure deserves it. I can't imagine how hard it must be for him to go from a vibrant healthy young man to struggling to do the simple things we take for granted.
The system is a good idea. Anything that will develope responsibility and memories at the same time. It might be a fun idea too to rotate the "buddy sisters" monthy or weekly to enable each of the sisters a chance to be close to the other.
In addition, may I suggest something? How bout the "date night" be with their Daddy?
What a fun lasting memory that would be for the girls. A chance to be with just him, simple as it may be.
And for Jon too, my goodness just think how that would make him feel to be included and moreover a chance to really forge a closeness with his daughters on an individual level.
He cant be counted out because of his condition, as long as he has his voice he will be a leading force in his daughters lives.
"Daddy Daughter Date Night"
Ohhhhhhhhh the possibilitys are endless!
Young mothers often believe that picking up after their children and doing the housework themselves is the only way to establish an orderly house. “I want my children to learn how nice it is to have a well-kept home, even if I have to do the work. The problem is that I don’t seem to have time for all there is to do.” Ultimately, both the mother and the child suffer. The mother is overworked; the child is indulged. It is far better for all members of the family if each child is made responsible for doing certain tasks around the house. These, of course, need to be geared to each child’s capacity. Failure at the task will bring discouragement and resentment. To assure that no one resents his assignment, parents should see that the work is shared as equally as possible. Assignments should be challenging, but should not be beyond the capacity of the child, both in the time it takes and the degree of difficulty.---this comes out of a LDS church handbook... I believe that you are doing EXACTLY the right thing...they will be blessed and so will you by giving them assignments and chores. You can always readjust as you and Jon see fit ..but you need their help and they NEED to help. It will be of great benefit in their lives and yours. You're on the right track!!!!
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